From Narcissism 101 by Stephen McDonnell The narcissist who is frustrated, who is publicly humiliated, who can’t get what he wants, usually will react with anger and rage....
From Narcissism 101
by Stephen McDonnell
The narcissist who is frustrated, who is publicly humiliated, who can’t get what he wants, usually will react with anger and rage. They are like frustrated children throwing a fit. Most adults can handle frustration, but narcissists have a low tolerance for denial. A narcissist is always boiling, always thinks others are conspiring against him. Narcissists are always conspiring against others, they tend to think other people are like them.
Paranoia is a problem with narcissists. They want it their way, they want their dream to come true and any deviation or anyone stepping on their toes sparks immediate anger. If they are in seduction mode, they will forgive for the moment, but years later the anger will come back in spades. They never forget a slight or an insult. They plan revenge. Or at least some of them do.
Other narcissists will act as though above the fray, not deigning to be upset. But they remember.
Think of a 6 year old child, think tantrum, remember how kids can say something terrible to you and then forget they said it, but if you reprimand them, they break into tears or they start breaking things.
For a narcissist, rage is the ultimate response to loss of control, and they use it to gain back control over the situation and others. They can be physically abusive and hurtful. If all their words of seduction and gifts do not work, then they will physically intimidate you. Rage can either be feigned or real. As long as it works.
Is it real? Is it a game? Even the narcissist doesn’t know. He is playing out his life out of touch with his real self, so who knows what he’s really feeling.
I have watched narcissists use rage to get their way, to vent their frustration on someone, then I have watched them walk away, cool as a cucumber, as if nothing happened. Other times, I have seen them break things. No doubt the prisons of the world are filled with narcissists who let their rage get the upper hand. The murderers and rapists with narcissistic disorders learned to like the rush of adrenaline, the loss of control that gave them more control over their victims in the end. If someone dies when a narcissist is angry, he blames the victim for “provoking him.” Remember, the narcissist is never wrong, never remembers his own mistakes, and is always in control.
If you want to see them enraged, disagree with them, make fun of them or their opinions, fight back when they attack you. If they feel they’re loosing, they will fly off the handle, in a desperate attempt at control. Or they will break down in tears and try to get attention that way; beware, they are experts at manipulation.
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